As if dealing in the REAL world isn’t enough, you’ve got to contend with those living their lives in a constant state of delusions <insert eye rolling>.
You’ve surely crossed paths with one at some point, you know the type who always think people are against them, or have a sense of grandiosity, or he/she who believes things that are unquestionably false but yet very real to the delusional even when the facts clearly say otherwise. Not ringing a bell, well perhaps the delusional one is you which sounds about right as the delusion begins with self and not being able to separate fact from fiction.
I have had the misfortune to meet a few of these “special” people in my lifetime and I can tell you it is a quite an experience. Most times quite honestly I wasn’t sure if they were crazy or I was slightly off my rocker as I listened with intent yet total confusion of situations that occurred but did so very differently, things that were never said, and transgressions that never were. Again if you can’t relate then said individual just might be you!
The craziest part is what the delusional one does to the rest of us or the sorta sane. The delusion is such that often you question your very own sanity because you believe you are dealing with someone who is “sane” and otherwise in their right mind so the only explanation is that you must be the one who is missing the boat. Do NOT be fooled nor sucked in by this mental game of concentration (a.k.a match, match reality to make-believe) for it will eat you alive. Therefore as soon as it becomes clear to you that the delusion is “real” for the delusional one you must run and run fast.
I recently got wind of a situation that totally left me scratching my head which actually given how my mind works I’m often looking sideways at those I encounter (no diss, just what happens when one has an active mind that they allow to run freely while processing all that is around them very quickly).
You, seemingly put together lady of a particular age with a career and means and friends and a life, created an entire relationship that NEVER was <insert puzzled look>. Your romantic interest expressed how he was not interested yet you continued to pursue him while questioning why said interest was not spending any time with you….um because he is NOT your boyfriend, lover, partner, etc. <–see the delusion?
Make no mistake delusional disorder is a real live mental issue often hard to treat because as you can imagine he/she who is delusional does not see it as such for it is real, very real for them. WebMD (http://www.webmd.com/schizophrenia/delusional-disorder) simply puts Delusional Disorder as….
“……a type of serious mental illness involving psychosis. Psychosis is the inability to tell what is real from what is imagined. The main feature of delusional disorder is the presence of delusions — unshakable beliefs in something untrue. People with delusional disorder experience non-bizarre delusions, which involve situations that could occur in real life, such as being followed, poisoned, deceived, conspired against, or loved from a distance. These delusions usually involve the misinterpretation of perceptions or experiences. In reality, however, the situations are either not true at all or highly exaggerated.
People with delusional disorder often can continue to socialize and function normally, apart from the subject of their delusion, and generally do not behave in an obviously odd or bizarre manner.”
The thought of it sounds comical or like the makings of a reality show but when caught up in a situation with one of these individuals it can be downright frustrating if not painful. Imagine befriending one who always creates their own storms yet blames you for the rain? He/she who thinks someone always is out to get them or he/she creates imaginary situations (someone in love with them, spying on them, etc.). The best defense is first to acknowledge that it is not you and secondly determine how you will interact with them going forward (if at all) so that their delusions do not become your dysfunction!