Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today? – Mary Manin Morrissey
The [random] conversations I’ve had over the past few weeks have really shed light on the fact so many of us are walking around battered, bruised, misguided, selling ourselves short, limiting our steps because they don’t fit the steps society has convinced us to be the only path.
One thing’s for certain, two thing’s for sure, telling yourself what you “CAN’T” do will ensure that you “DON’T” do them. However striking that from your vocabulary will open undiscovered doors to distant lands [metaphorically] and a whole world to unlimited possibilities!
Speaking specifically to women, we are so quick to neglect our power [by giving it away freely]; to put so much emphasis on a man or the attention of said man yet allow our lives to be in constant flux and disarray. Chase YOUR dreams, build your life, and LIVE your life as close to the ‘whole’ you as possible. For when ‘we’ introduce or get ‘lost’ in the falsified ‘love’ of another we are unable to be truly present as we are merely less than the whole of ourselves. There should be NO excuses for our lives, our goals, or our happy for the only thing holding us back is ourselves.
Have you had that conversation with someone who speaks on those things they would “like’ to do; goals they want to reach; or life changes they like [hope] to make yet after vocalizing the WHAT they follow-up with why they can’t. Such examples include everything from, “oh I would like to follow “x” passion but I don’t have time, resources education [a degree]. All this when I hear it becomes info for the junk pile. Self-sabotage is running rampant and usually through or due to piss-poor decisions people are making.
If you can research any and everything related to any local celebrity of your choosing or search some BS about snooping on a lover through these mobile phone apps then you are can find ways to pursue your passion [of value]. Sitting around doing nothing renders one thing for sure: NOTHING! It also lends credit to you not being ready to make the necessary changes in your life to do better, be better, achieve more because of the underlying fear of letting go.
As the quote so eloquent speaks to, we must release past hurts, fear, pain even just to be able to move forward and no better way to that than spend quiet, honest time with yourself to acknowledge those things and eventually make peace with them. Let’s face it, we all have a past, we’ve all been hurt by something or someone but the difference between those that “survive and succeed'” vs those who “dive and recede” is just the ability to release the fear or use it as a motivation. The desire to do ‘better’ must largely be for personal gain and not to show up another (say he or she who has hurt us) however just living/doing better will provide just that victory in itself.
So today I ask, what is it that YOU would or need to let go in order to begin to maximize your fullest potential ?