“The tragedy in life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach.” – Benjamin Mays
So I’ve been MIA for a minute. I had to unexpectedly return to Providence last week after being there for the past 7-9 weeks. Not to mention this situation where I agreed to help a friend in need only to find myself questioning what I’ve gotten myself into. Ironically enough though through this voyage to “Good Samaritan” land, I am receiving so many affirmations on what I long believed to be key contributors to being a upstanding and productive citizen.
1. Respect other peoples things, space, etc. Visiting someone and temporarily living with them shows a whole new side to them but also should enforce a certain level of common courtesy and consideration.
2. When we enable people (those who lack the self-motivation, drive, independent gene), we cripple them, provide them a crutch that can be detrimental to their ability to be productive contributors of society. Even worse is enabling grown-ups at the expense of your own sanity, finances, lifestyle, etc. How does one draw the line between giving to their young adult – adult children yet instilling in them a strong work ethic without creating individuals who would rather talk about doing than actually doing something, anything.
3. Lip service. Enough said well maybe not but I know I’m not a fan of it. Those who give a lot of lip services have ZERO service to provide; nothing substantial to give. If you listen to people especially those who will ear hustle or jaw jack you, after time you’ll see it’s all a smoke screen. Talk without action is SILENCE!
4. Helping others. Before you agree to help others, you must fully understand what that means and risks associated with helping such as money. Only loan money you can afford to GIVE AWAY as most often you will not receive the money back per the terms agreed upon. When you decided to help others you also decided to take on whatever issue they have which predicated the help – perhaps indirectly – as it has a way of creeping into your life.
5. Planning is the key to everything! Even if the plan just in the theory as long as there has been some thoughts placed around reaching a goal, deadline, or event then there is something to measure your steps against. For without a plan you are more or less wandering around aimlessly.
6. Being resourceful is the best thing you can have in your personal toolkit. People love to talk about institutionalized education as the key to success but that is nothing if you can’t apply yourself, have no skills nor direction. However if you are resourceful you can find a way to make things happen.
That is all!